If you have created a new pattern during the time of the pandemic, consider which ones you will continue and on which one you need to put a full stop.
I am a highly sensitive, introverted psychotherapist. When the pandemic started to rise, I started dealing with my clients online, from home. It is working surprisingly well. All the credit goes to the magic of the internet, I was able to continue my work and was able to earn a living, while the clients could stay at home continuing their therapy without getting interrupted. The process was smooth, if the clients did not want to be on video, we would do phone calls. And the healing journeys continued.
Many of them, probably mostly introverts, liked being able to stay home, cozy, and warm where they might feel safer from emotional attack and face the difficult processing of emotions that therapy encourages and supports. They were able to form up after an intense session rather than head out of their car and the overwhelming world.
Transitioning From Communicating Online To Offline
Some of the clients would like to return to in-person therapy soon. They talk about that special feeling of being with, the richness of two humans in a room deeply connected, exploring the dark knight of the soul together and in a shared space. The connected journey.
This is evoking interest, of course, and what drew me to this career path. Getting into a psychotherapist career is an ideal career for a highly sensitive introvert like me. The deep connection. Complex conversations. One person at a time. Sensitivity, empathy, listening, processing, healing.
Technology dims the connected quality, of course. But the introvert in me has gotten used to my loneliness. I like seeing my clients online.
I am wondering if I will go back to the therapy – as – usual. Or even life – as – usual. Maybe this pandemic has given all of us a chance to evaluate our old normal worlds and create better normals for our futures.
1. If you have created new patterns during the covid-19 period, consider which ones you’ll take further and which ones you’ll end.
Give yourself sometime to return to see your family and friends. If you have enjoyed the loneliness, think about who and how you want to bring folks back into your life. Possibly it was easier to set boundaries because you could blame the pandemic. Now you have to honestly evaluate your relationships and know the time and energy each one takes. Keep in mind that everyone benefits when you set clear boundaries, even if they initially complain about them.
If you’ve been working with a therapist online and have found it more relaxing, discuss this with them to see if they will continue working that way. If you’ve been working from home and prefer it, can you make a case with your employer for staying at home? As you have been enjoying the new online courses and conferences, do not feel as, you now have to attend in person if you prefer distance learning.
2. Give yourself permission to get a good therapist if you’re feeling buried by depression or life in general.
If you have lost someone in the pandemic – or have experienced other losses, like the loss of a relationship – therapy can get you help with grief. Family and friends are not always the best to understand the problems of the grieving process. During therapy, you are held in a safe container to express your emotions and work through your losses. The pandemic has been terrifying and causing disruption in so many ways.For individual people who have been traumatized as children, the loss of control with the virus may have triggered old fears of being caught in a trap and less strong. Knowing when you are in need of help, is a sign of strength.
If you were raised in a dysfunctional family and can see those patterns being repeated in your genuine voice. And as an introvert, you may be naturally introspective and self – aware, but you do not need it.
3. Recognize that your introversion is a strength. Nourish it through self-care practices and creative pursuits.
As you’re deciding to build your better normal, consider building it on a foundation of self – acceptance. Keep reading and without throwing back on the articles on sites like this one that explain the importance of embracing your introversion. If you tend to be a deep, analytical thinker with multiple interests, you might also read about rainforest minds, which is a description of people with these traits. Getting to know your complex thoughts and emotions through the rainforest mind lens will be reassuring and enlightening.
You can also make a list of the self – care practices, which you use now, and then add it to the list. Comprise creative outlets, such as journalising, writing or dancing.Try to learn a new instrument or a new type of language.
4. Care for your present relationships and be open to new people coming into your life
It may be difficult for you to find friends and partners who understand and support your introverted needs and wants. And it’s never too late to make new friends or develop the ones which you have. Make a good effort to reach it; even an email can be enough to make a good connection. I am now in my 60s and I have made some of the deepest decisions in the past several years. As the world returns to more safe interactions, use your insights to find potential friendships within the activities that you like. It could be hard for you to begin contact, but you may have to.
These are some of the ways introverts can create a better new normal, according to a therapist.
In these ways, introverted people can live their lives in an easy way. And can perform better in life.